Winds of Change

I felt it yesterday.  You can feel it pierce through you.  That chilly fall wind that has a subtle way of telling you that change is imminent.  Oh yes, winter is on the way.  That fall wind that may have convinced you to wear a jacket out last night is only going to get cooler and soon the snow will be flying.

It’s more than that though.  There’s something inside me that says, it’s time for a change.  Something deep down inside me needs a shakeup.  I’m not talking about life altering change, it may be that I just need to buy a new hat, or jacket but I’m restless.

Maybe there’s nothing wrong at all?  maybe it’s that every fall I feel this way.  Could it be that since childhood we’ve been conditioned to recognize this time of year as a time for change?  It’s a new school year, time to buy new clothes, and re-invent yourself for another semester.  It’s possible that I’m feeling restless because I’ve been conditioned to feel this way.

Not and exciting blog today, but I’m trying to squeeze some words out of the chamber.  Bare with me.

Adolescence, all over again

You’re twenty-nine years old.  Looking around you begin to see all of your friends pairing up and moving on to the next stage in life.  For a while in your late twenties you have it made in the shade, you are able to enjoy the benefits of adulthood.  Once you start rounding thirty years old however; Things start to change and before you know it, you’re back into the throws of adolescence.

What I mean by adolescence is the period of growth that all men experience.  Whether your eighteen and striking out on your own at college, or you’re twenty-five making long term plans, or forty-something trying to re-invent yourself after a divorce, you are always growing and always experiencing adolescence.  That’s right, the pimples may be gone but you are in a constant state of flux.

Now however, for me at least, you start to feel some pressure after a summer of weddings or a the news of pending babies.  Relatives at thanksgiving always asking “When are you going to get married?”  or “Are you seeing someone? when do we get to meet her?”

Damnit, there is enough pressure in this world on young men to be successful without adding the element of feeling like a black sheep.  You start to feel like something is wrong with you.  All the friends you used to go out drinking with are now in pyjamas at home for ‘movie night’ or taking the kids to the water-park on the weekend.  Eventually, you’re the lone ranger at the monthly dinner party.  The only single guy.

The important thing here, is not to panic.  This is my point here, and I will highlight it so that you don’t fall into the classic trap.  AVOID SETTLING.

Family pressure, the black sheep mentality, and society in general will make you feel like you need to pair up, and pair up ASAP.  Don’t give in.  Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t absolutly, positively, light up your world.  Take your time, enjoy it (and enjoy the women you meet along the way), even if it takes some time.

I’m back…

Well hello.  It’s been a while.   My sincere apologies.

Where have I been?  well, as you may have been an invested follower in my ramblings you will know that I’ve been hacking away at writing a book for the last couple of years.

Somewhere in the last two months I became inspired, and words start flowing out of me.  Like rain into a paper cup; if I can be so cliche to say so.

In short, I’ve been balls deep into the book and the first draft is finished.  I’m excited to try and get this sucker published.  More on that later.

I’m back.  Keep reading my friend.